My Ah-Ha Moment was Watching a Handshake


Greetings and welcome to my Day 9 post in the Authors’ Blogging Challenge. Today’s prompt asks “Describe how the idea for your book first came to you. Where were you? Who was the first person you told? How did they respond?”

Business group portrait - Six business people working together. A diverse work group.People watching is a favorite pastime and body language is important in my work as an executive coach and consultant. I provided clients with feedback on body language as part of the coaching process but only intermittently. The information just hung out in space with no way to reinforce behavior and no way to connect the feedback.

Lightbulb The ah-ha moment was at a conference while I watched individuals meet and greet others. Most of the greetings were body languages “misses” — awkward exchanges with no good information sharing. The nightmare interaction was the handshake moment – hands extending and no returned hand, grappling with how to connect, too long, too short, too vigorous, too much like a dead fish.

Returning home, I decided it was time to write the book that would describe and illustrate good business body language principles. My husband was the first person I told and he was very supportive, encouraging me to move ahead. I also shared the idea with a group of women from a professional organization and they also were supportive and provided some great feedback.

That was in 2013 and I am committed to complete and publish this book soon. Watch here for progress reports.

Tip of the Day

There is an “ideal handshake” that is the standard in business. It can make or break a hiring or buying decision.

I share it here with you with the hope you will share it with those just entering the business scene.Handshake

  1. Look the person in the eye and smile
  2. Extend hand perpendicular to floor, thumb to the sky
  3. Connect with a snug, semi-firm handshake and three to five pumps, then let go

Field workPractice your handshake and see the reactions from your partner.

Observe people shaking hands in a business setting.  How did they do?

Please support another Author Blog Challenge participant by checking out Simone Fortier’s blog at A Pain-Free Life Now.

Regards, Barbara

The Body Language Pro


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